Thursday, April 28, 2011

Relationships that leave you feeling drained

I am SURE we all have them. Probably most of us have several. I am talking about relationships that leave you feeling EXHAUSTED and emotionally drained. It could be a friendship that is totally one-sided, a neighbor who drives you nuts, a family member who is especially challenging, a friend who only talks AT you and never listens. We all know people who fit these roles in our life. And I have to say, I am STRUGGLING with what to do with them right now. I often wonder what Christ would do with these folks. Is it awful to wonder what Jesus did with really ANNOYING people? Ha! I know we should be open and honest with them, but frankly, sometimes that doesn't seem to make any difference! Some of these relationships have been strained for decades, and I find myself giving up hope that they will ever change. I still pray for them, but what I often need is patience! Patience when I have to interact with them. Kindness in my heart. When do we just let go of these relationships? And how do we manage the ones we truly have to continue with? And where is the line between being HONEST and being unkind? If I completely disagree with EVERYTHING you are saying or feel like you are just blowing smoke, how do I say this in a nice way? How do I tell a person kindly that they never listen to anyone else and a conversation with them is an auditory assault? (Pretty sure that is not what I should say!) Any thoughts anyone? :-)

1 comment:

Jenn Mair said...

I know how you feel Aimee, it is very discouraging and draining. My advice would be pray about it. Ask God for wisdom on how to handle this relationship. A long time ago there was someone in my life that drove me nuts! I had to realize this person may always be apart of my life. I just prayed that God would pour his grace on the situation and give me wisdom on how to glorify Him in this relationship. I can honestly say He has given me the victory. Don't get me wrong, there are still difficult times but once again God helps me. I have to lean on him for patience and love.